THE MAKING LOVE RETREAT
As created by Diana Richardson, pioneer of the Slow Sex movement.

Your Daily Dose of Love

Your Daily Dose of Love

 

One of the biggest complaints I hear from couples at The Making Love Retreat and from clients is that they are time poor.

‘We want to make love but we just don’t have the time.’ It is true that fulfilling lovemaking does require time. But when we do finally make love we are often in a hurry to get it over and done with, to get to the end, the goal, the orgasm.

Always striving towards something in a hurried way often means we are not really present. We are ahead of ourselves. Also if we don’t orgasm, with the downward release of energy, then we think it’s not really sex.

Women are in distress ...

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Still Sex - Dynamic Stillness

Still Sex - Dynamic Stillness

 

I've been contemplating the idea of Dynamic Stillness in relation to making love lately.

To me Dynamic equals life force.

Stillness equals power as it's in the deep inner space of our being that power resides.

So Powerful Life Force is what we are talking about.

How to be dynamically still in your life and whilst making love?

It seems like a contradiction. Surely you have to move for something to be dynamic? For it to be fun, to be interesting?

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Porn or Pawn? The latest on Porn, Kids and Relationships in Australia

Porn or Pawn? The latest on Porn, Kids and Relationships in Australia

The use of Pornography must be one of the most polarising subjects around when it comes to sexuality and relationships.

Shrouded in secrecy, both women and men, silent for their own reasons - men for their shame and guilt. (Men more commonly use Pornography more than women)

And women, for their feelings of betrayal and shame that they are 'not enough' for their husband, who has to resort to porn to satisfy him.

A sense of failure prevails for both. Deep wounding is triggered and is created fresh in the moment, as each click drives another relationship to the wall.

(Please note some aspects of this post may offend)

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Menopause and Making Love

Menopause and Making Love

Menopause can be a time of huge change for a woman. AND her love partner!

As the common symptoms intensify, women who have been so capable and successful in their career and mothering roles can find themselves floundering in the uncharted waters of uncontrollable emotion.

She can feel so tired that she becomes as irritable as a bear guarding her lair. And the rising heat of hot flushes at night...

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Dating in Captivity

Dating in Captivity

Forgive me for the play on words here. Taken from Esther Perels' book Mating in Captivity, which speaks to the unnatural demand monogamy puts on couples.

Well, some couples prefer to be monogamous and if you are one of those, then you may have experienced once or twice the feeling of monotony come over your relationship, you, or the other. Or perhaps your original commitment has felt like entrapment.

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