Behind every judgment, every criticism, every unloving act, every unloving word, is an unmet emotion.
Emotions are the silent killers in relationships. Emotions could be seen as the dark shadow that casts its spell on the land of our love.
They are the one thing that many of us are most inept at dealing with, the reason why we are left standing saying, 'Where has the love gone?'
I was 14 years old when I found myself in a huge school hall, watching a sex education film. I was sitting in profound and stunned silence when I realised that ‘that’ went into ‘that’ and by the way, how was that physically possible? I shuddered with fear and responsibility that I would have to ‘do’ this one day.
There was nothing spoken about pleasure, about love, about how magical our bodies actually are, about the profound mystery of creation and birth, or simply the potential for elevation and expression of love through our bodies.
For years I was tempted to avoid intimacy. Yet there was always something deeper inside me that knew that avoiding was not the answer. So I was always open to new ideas and new possibilities because there was nothing more than I wanted than a fulfilling, loving relationship.
Holidays are traditionally a time that can be filled with good cheer and blessings, but sometimes it can also be a time of stress as the tensions of a relationship show up more clearly. Time spent being ‘busy’ through the year can sometimes be a way to avoid some deeper issues in a relationship, and in particular, the health of the sexual relating. There’s a common joke that men can...
I was just in Zurich recently and I found myself with half an hour to wait to meet my partner downstairs outside our hotel. The hotel was by the river Limmat, and outside were lovely little tables right on the river where the Swiss enjoy their drinks and coffees. Instead though, I decided to go back upstairs and use the time to lie on the bed and relax - and...
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