THE MAKING LOVE RETREAT
As created by Diana Richardson, pioneer of the Slow Sex movement.

Topic: "love"

It's not all about Sex

It's not all about Sex

 

Last week it was my father's birthday. He would have been 91. It reminded me of the days before he passed in January 2015, when I would sit silently with him.

Watching his closed eyes, seeing him breathe in and out quietly and gently, while stroking his body or holding his hand, my eyes would moisten. I was so moved as I contemplated the pure love of this man I could proudly call my Dad.

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Menopause and Making Love

Menopause and Making Love

Menopause can be a time of huge change for a woman. AND her love partner!

As the common symptoms intensify, women who have been so capable and successful in their career and mothering roles can find themselves floundering in the uncharted waters of uncontrollable emotion.

She can feel so tired that she becomes as irritable as a bear guarding her lair. And the rising heat of hot flushes at night...

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Letting Love in

Letting Love in

When Michelangelo was asked 'How did he create the David?', he said, "The form is already there, I just take away what it is not." 

I spent time with my grandchild the other day. I wonder at who she will be in twenty years time. How will life mould her.

She reminds me of how we are born as a pure expression of love and innocence and then as we grow older, we seem to develop ways of hiding away this love, as protection or survival.

I wonder that our purpose is to be the loving sculptor, to remember this love and find ways to allow what isn't love to fall away, to let down our guard, to reveal who we really are.

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Sexual Vulnerability

Sexual Vulnerability

What is it to be sexually vulnerable in a relationship?

A strange question. Who wants to be sexually vulnerable? It implies being used, being abused, even being open to things that you just don't resonate with. Or going along with the current trends that are being normalised through online porn or movies. To feeling defenceless, weakness, being unprotected. To me, it doesn't mean that at all. Let's take a deeper look.

Bringing those two words together – sex and vulnerability seems scary. And it’s a bridge that many don’t want to cross. Especially for women, but also for men. In a way though, women are already sexually vulnerable just by their very physical nature.

But to put it into the context of a relationship, being sexually vulnerable means leaving aside the mind games we play to protect ourselves, to get love, to perform, or perhaps look a certain way to our partner.

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When a man loves a woman...

When a man loves a woman...

A girlfriend called me in distress recently. She’d been enjoying a beautiful opening with her new man. But, in her own words, her history of relationships wasn’t great. She’d always get to a point where her fear of intimacy would get so engulfing for her, she’d end it or he would.

She knew her potential to ‘open up’. But they had started lovemaking when all of a sudden, her body contracted....

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Does 'make-up' sex really work?

Does 'make-up' sex really work?

Behind every judgment, every criticism, every unloving act, every unloving word, is an unmet emotion.

Emotions are the silent killers in relationships. Emotions could be seen as the dark shadow that casts its spell on the land of our love.

They are the one thing that many of us are most inept at dealing with, the reason why we are left standing saying, 'Where has the love gone?'

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Talking to your children about sex

Talking to your children about sex

I was 14 years old when I found myself in a huge school hall, watching a sex education film. I was sitting in profound and stunned silence when I realised that ‘that’ went into ‘that’ and by the way, how was that physically possible? I shuddered with fear and responsibility that I would have to ‘do’ this one day.

There was nothing spoken about pleasure, about love, about how magical our bodies actually are, about the profound mystery of creation and birth, or simply the potential for elevation and expression of love through our bodies.

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How you make love can heal your Relationship

How you make love can heal your Relationship

For years I was tempted to avoid intimacy. Yet there was always something deeper inside me that knew that avoiding was not the answer. So I was always open to new ideas and new possibilities because there was nothing more than I wanted than a fulfilling, loving relationship.

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My Zurich Experience – The Attracting Force of Woman

My Zurich Experience – The Attracting Force of Woman

I was just in Zurich recently and I found myself with half an hour to wait to meet my partner downstairs outside our hotel. The hotel was by the river Limmat, and outside were lovely little tables right on the river where the Swiss enjoy their drinks and coffees. Instead though, I decided to go back upstairs and use the time to lie on the bed and relax - and...

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Sensuality: How To Move Gracefully In a Busy World

Sensuality: How To Move Gracefully In a Busy World

When I visited India a couple of years ago, the one thing that stood out to me most was the grace and elegance of the women.

I remember watching and being mesmerized by a band of women working on a two-storey building. I was surprised to notice how often they were the ones working in the more physical tasks... Yet here, they moved up the ladders and along the floors like...

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