Behind every judgment, every criticism, every unloving act, every unloving word, is an unmet emotion.
Emotions are the silent killers in relationships. Emotions could be seen as the dark shadow that casts its spell on the land of our love.
They are the one thing that many of us are most inept at dealing with, the reason why we are left standing saying, 'Where has the love gone?'
I was 14 years old when I found myself in a huge school hall, watching a sex education film. I was sitting in profound and stunned silence when I realised that ‘that’ went into ‘that’ and by the way, how was that physically possible? I shuddered with fear and responsibility that I would have to ‘do’ this one day.
There was nothing spoken about pleasure, about love, about how magical our bodies actually are, about the profound mystery of creation and birth, or simply the potential for elevation and expression of love through our bodies.
For years I was tempted to avoid intimacy. Yet there was always something deeper inside me that knew that avoiding was not the answer. So I was always open to new ideas and new possibilities because there was nothing more than I wanted than a fulfilling, loving relationship.
Holidays are traditionally a time that can be filled with good cheer and blessings, but sometimes it can also be a time of stress as the tensions of a relationship show up more clearly. Time spent being ‘busy’ through the year can sometimes be a way to avoid some deeper issues in a relationship, and in particular, the health of the sexual relating. There’s a common joke that men can...
Recently a couple were sitting with Gene and I, and we were discussing some of the difficulties that were confronting them in their sexual relationship at present. They were a committed pair who obviously loved each other and were devoted to a long-term relationship. The woman’s eyes welled up with tears as we offered the suggestion to not force her body into sex at any time…. that any sense of...
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